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update: my boss is abusive and blames it on PMDD

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

Remember the letter-writer whose boss was abusive and blamed it on PMDD? Here’s the update. I have an update for my boss who was blaming her abusive behavior on PMDD. It ended how I was starting to suspect it would. After your response, my husband and I started working on moving our kids onto his […]

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video calls are the worst way to do job rejections

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Imagine you’ve interviewed for a job you really and have been waiting to hear back. When the hiring manager messages you to invite you to a video call, you’re thrilled—this must be the offer, you think, so you clear your afternoon, make yourself look presentable, and log into Zoom … only for the hiring manager […]

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company asked me to spend an hour giving feedback on their hiring process

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A reader writes: I recently went through a lengthy interview process (five interviews, one of which lasted over two hours, plus two assessments) for a position, and after the final interview, the company asked me to join them for a feedback call. Interestingly, the feedback call was an opportunity for me to tell them how […]

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candidate said “you shouldn’t hire me,” inappropriate music in a family-friendly store, and more

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It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. A candidate said “you shouldn’t hire me” at the end of our interview I wanted some feedback on the interview I conducted with a candidate earlier today. Overall, the candidate performed exceptionally well during the interview process, showcasing their skills and experience effectively. However, towards […]

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weekend open thread – February 24-25, 2024

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

This comment section is open for any non-work-related discussion you’d like to have with other readers, by popular demand. Here are the rules for the weekend posts. Book recommendation of the week: Good Material, by Dolly Alderton. Reeling from a breakup with his girlfriend, a struggling stand-up comic tries to figure out why she left and […]

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open thread – February 23-24, 2024

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

It’s the Friday open thread! The comment section on this post is open for discussion with other readers on any work-related questions that you want to talk about (that includes school). If you want an answer from me, emailing me is still your best bet*, but this is a chance to take your questions to […]

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management talks to us like we’re children, napping in the wellness room, and more

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

It’s four answers to four questions. Here we go… 1. Management talks to us like we’re children I am a healthcare professional who works for a home health agency. We are all nurses, rehab therapists, or social workers — educated people with specialized skillsets. We rarely meet in-person but have daily phone calls, so I […]

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can I bring a friend-with-benefits back to my hotel on a work trip?

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

A reader writes: Next month, I’ll be attending a professional conference with several of my coworkers. This will be my first work trip. I have a friend-with-benefits who lives in the city that the conference is being hosted in. Would it be inappropriate for me to invite her to stay with me at my hotel? […]

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Ask a Manager in the media

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

Here’s some coverage of Ask a Manager in the media recently: I talked to Katie Couric Media about Ask a Manager and stressed out middle-managers. I talked to Self about how to manage anxiety at work. HR Dive featured AAM in a piece on therapy at work. The Daily Dot and a bunch of other […]

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I’m a night owl — how can I adjust to a new job with early hours?

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

It’s the Thursday “ask the readers” question. A reader writes: I am very much a night owl (the best job I ever had for my sleep schedule was bartending). One silver lining of our company switching to remote work has been that I have been able to sleep in much later than the old days. […]

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I was fired during my probationary period, mentioning kids in a cover letter, and more

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It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. I was fired during my probationary period If you are fired during your probationary period, should you expect it to be without warning? This just happened to me, where I was let go of at the 60-day mark. I had a 30-day check-in, where the […]

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my boss reprimanded me for not answering an email … in four minutes

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A reader writes: I’ve been at my new job for just over a month and have very grave doubts about whether it’s going to work out. I’m finding it impossible to make my supervisor, Martha, happy. Her criticism is frequent, harsh, and, in my opinion, often very unreasonable. The incident that has me writing to […]

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my employee eavesdrops on me

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A reader writes: At first I thought I was being paranoid, but on three separate occasions, I’ve wrapped up a closed door conversation others in our C-suite, only to discover my employee directly outside my door. Our office set-up is odd; we’re essentially one huge office that was cut into thirds–one side is her office […]

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is it safe to share at my company’s “courageous conversation” on menopause?

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

A reader writes: My company is proposing a workshop to have “courageous conversations” with colleagues about menopause. There is no professional facilitating this; it is an open discussion. The message about it says it will be “a safe space that is inclusive and supportive” and “an informal discussion among peers.” My company is heavily promoting […]

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should I be worried by maxed-out company credit cards, an aggressive-driver coworker, and more

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. A recruiter got angry that I contacted a company directly Someone contacted me through LinkedIn and said he was recruiting for an executive assistant role and asked if I had any contacts who might be interested. I used to work as an administrative coordinator with […]

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my boss keeps asking if I’m OK

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A reader writes: My manager is overall a decent boss, and is reasonable and kind. However she has this one habit that has started to eat away at me. She constantly asks if I am okay. Even typing this, it seems so inane/nice, but it is a pattern that is wearing me down. A couple […]

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how to give constructive criticism at work

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

If you’re like a lot of people, having to tell someone their work isn’t good enough can feel awkward, even when the feedback is necessary and constructive — and even if you’re a manager whose job it is to have those conversations. But if you approach it in the right way, asking for changes to […]

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I’m supposed to share a bed with a coworker on a business trip

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

A reader writes: I started a new job recently and was told that there was a department-wide meeting coming up in another city in March. In total, they are flying around 45 people in for two days/one night. As I’m leading one of the sessions, I was in the organizer’s spreadsheet and found a list […]

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are managers “deeply concerned” if you ask for feedback, I got in trouble for saying I didn’t want to be “a dick,” and more

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

It’s five answers to five questions. Here we go… 1. Are managers “deeply concerned” if you ask for feedback? A while back, I took an advanced class in a topic I’d never studied, but still within my department. I mentioned this to the professor before committing. This was a small class (~10 students) and as […]

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update: I have to go to an awkward Valentine’s Day work dinner right after a breakup

This post was written by Alison Green and published on Ask a Manager.

Remember the letter-writer who had to go to an awkward Valentine’s Day work dinner right after a breakup? Here’s the update. I decided to attend the dinner, and it was actually even more painful than I thought it would be BUT I was totally professional and represented my organization well. I had decided to see […]

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